Monday, February 1, 2010

Marriage Monday:How to Celebrate February 14 Every Day of the Year

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February 1st begins what I like to think of as "our month." We started dating in February 1998 and have many special days in this month. Add Valentine's Day (and my birthday!) to the month and we have a full month of specialness. :)

I firmly believe that if we wait until February 14 to go all out to show our love to our spouses, our marriage won't be strong. But what do we do to keep the love strong all year round? For me it seems to be all the little things we do that mean the most. I don't expect my husband to buy me roses or gifts. Those things are nice and I love surprises; however, it is the little stuff we do daily that makes me happy and makes me feel so cherished and loved by my man.

We have a little stuffed red heart we hide for the other to find. It's always a great surprise to find it. We have code words for each other that are special to us. We go on dates. We both look forward to each week since Caleb has been in school is our lunch dates on Thursday's. We spend time together talking and laughing. We miss each other when we are apart. We talk about and remember our early dating days.

It's fun to have a special day to celebrate love on February 14, but I'm all for doing little things to show love every day and not just wait for a special occasion.

Have a day of blessings!


Denise said...

Precious post.

A Stone Gatherer said...

Me too Bethany! I love talking about when we first started dating! Those are "warm fuzzy" moments!

MiPa said...

Sweet post. Thank you for sharing.

Faith said...

My hubby and I just LOVE remembering when we first started to date!!
great post..thanks for sharing.

Susan said...

Oh Bethany,

How neat. I love that cute little game you play.

Happy Birthday too!

nice A said...

Little things mean a lot. Very well said. Finding a red heart is so cute:) Thanks for sharing your thoughts and advance Happy Birthday on Valentine's Day! This day is really special for you. God bless you and your family.

Julie The Surrendered Scribe said...

Hiding the red heart is an idea I never heard. THis is a wonderful idea!

Jaime Kubik said...

I love the idea of hiding a heart for the other to find...might have to start such a ritual if you don't mind me borrowing it from you! Great post! So glad I read it!

Debra Kaye said...


I loved this post. Dating is so important in a relationship. Love the heart game. Precious.

Happy Happy Birthday!

PS ... I've missed you!

Claudia said...

Sounds like two people in love with a great marriage! God bless.

Mac an Rothaich said...

Oh I love code words!!

gemini said...

Mystery is one secret i enjoyed in our marriage. My husband is good at giving me clues on what his surprise is for me on weekends. thanks for your post and for dropping by. hear from you again.

tonya said...

Hiding something that only the two of you have. What a great idea! Great post!

e-Mom said...

Wonderful! I like your game of hiding the red heart. We used to do the same with a stuffed monkey!

It sound like you enjoy a satisfying marriage all year long. Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today, Bethany.


e-Mom :~D

Constance said...

Thanks for stopping by on MM. I agree with showing love 365 days a year rather than going allout on Valentine's day. God is our endless resource for everything, even love. He is a creative God so naturally He can give us creative ways to show love to our spouse! I like roses too but I have discovered after all of these years that Dave shows his love and appreciation for me in small, silent ways. It's a wise wife who recognizes that and it's a wise husband who sometimes goes against the tide and surprises his wife!

sharon said...

The first day I met my husband, I knew he was The One. He just loves that story and is always asking me 'so how did you feel when you first saw me?' lol.

I think if we can capture that early time, it will help when the road becomes a bit rocky.

eph2810 said...

Amen to that, Bethany. I think it is marvelous that you are meeting Thursdays for lunch :) - I also think that communication is the key to a marriage.

Thank you for sharing your insight.

Love & peace,