I can't stand conflict or hurting anyone. If this person even knew me or my heart she would know that. Yet I had to realize that what I said hurt this person. Even though I never meant to hurt her, it was taken that way. I asked her to forgive me, and I've prayed for her hurt. But I've also thought about how maybe I should just have never said anything to her? Other people had publicly agreed on the comment that it was inappropriate to type on the page of this organization so I felt at least I wasn't alone in thinking this was inappropriate. But looking back I don't think it accomplished anything to tell her though that what she said hurt. So this raises the question in my mind: Should I have just said nothing to begin with?
How do you respond in situations like this? How do you know when to stand up and let someone know you are hurt by their actions or words? Or on the flip side to just let them say whatever they want even when it is untrue, hurtful, rude, inappropriate, etc. in order to avoid any disagreement or conflict? I'm not talking just in regards to this personal situation either. I see this in society in general too.
This has been on my heart lately. Thank you for listening.
Have a day of blessings!
5 comments:
I H.A.T.E. conflict. I will rarely tell someone I am hurt, but that isn't always healthy.
I think there are times when we have all gotten into a situation similar to this when we sincerely share our heart and then realize that the other person isn't in the frame of mind we are and it's misunderstood. At that point it's not always possible to "make things right" and although it's hard to let go, it is best to "let go and let God" handle it.
In some cases it's difficult to know the right thing to do or say and we just have to do what we think is best at that time!
I think soooo many times when reading a written comment it is soooo very hard to tell the intent whether it is good, bad, sarcastic, angry etc. We can mean one thing in typing a text, a comment or even a blog post and when others read it they totally take it completely different. It is a sad situation and even though I don't know you that well I do know you would NEVER intentionally hurt someone. You are precious Bethany and in this situaiton you have done all you can do for now.. God knows your heart and I pray you can release this knowing you have done all you can and praying for this person is such a blessing!
Love and hugs!
I love you sweet sis.
Yes... Facebook. It is can cause quite an ethical stir. Sometimes the Lord asks us to speak... and sometimes it is received... and sometimes it is not. We must know Him and follow His leading. His Way is not the easy way, but it is the way that is life-giving.
I'll be praying for peace.
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