Join us for Marriage Monday at A Fruit in Season. Christine writes: If I really was the "right spouse" for my husband, what would that look like? What would I do differently? I am the one that knows most intimately his personality, his needs, his fears, his desires, his dreams, his stresses, his weaknesses. How should that knowledge change the way I relate and interact with him today? So for our June Marriage Monday I ask you the same question. Ponder it, chew on it, really consider it. How would you be different if you truly acted like the "right person" for your husband?Success in marriage isn't finding the right person; it's being the right person.
I totally believe God brought my husband and me together for a purpose. He is so wonderful for me and God knew exactly what I needed when He gave me him. I want to be the right person for my husband and to always be his helper as we travel this life's journey together.
I've read The Five Love Languages book and one time asked my husband to make a list of things that I can do to make him feel loved. I like to go back and look at that list from time to time to see if I'm doing those things and showing him love.
There are a few things that come to mind immediately that I can work on to be a better wife:
~ listen when he talks and give him my full attention.
~ make his lunch for him joyfully! Sometimes I get tired of making his lunch but it's really not a big deal.
~ say "I love you" more often. I am so glad we say I love you to each other throughout the day. I've heard of people who never hear this in their relationships and it is so important. I'm glad he likes to hear it and say it (and mean it!).
~ be consistent in going to bed on time. I am so bad about this. We get to reading or then talking after we turn the lights out and it gets late quickly. This is something I want to work on.
My husband is such a blessing to me and I'm thankful for him. You can read more about his wonderfulness tomorrow if you'd like :) in a special post!
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"However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:33
9 comments:
Such a great post sweetie.
This is very powerful Bethany!!! That statement, "am I the right spouse for my husband" just resinates with me... especially when you said, how would I look if I were the right spouse...
So many fantastic points here I need to ponder and apply!!!
LOVE to you!
Amanda
Enjoyed reading your thoughts! I chuckled when you wrote about the lunch thing...I am often so "grumpy" at 6 a.m. and it's time to make him a nutritious lunch so he doesn't waste his money on junk food but I have to remember that this is one act of service i can offer to him....and like you said, it is not a big deal!
My post is now up too and I also mentioned the Love Languages book...a fantastic book!
We have the same book and it is wonderful. What would I do differently? I would probably try to be less in control...ugh! An example would be our yard. I love to mow and garden and I like it all to look a certain, organized way; I would rather be mowing than using my vacuum any day. I use to do it all myself. For the last 2 weeks, we have been doing the yard work together and it is so much fun! We have over 2 acres so this is a tremendous help and it is so fun to do the yard work together. We look forward to working in the yard together every Saturday now.
Also, I am trying to be a better "girlfriend." It is easy to get busy with our daughters and forget to spend time together. We have been sneaking off to run errands or eat lunch together more often.
Wonderful post. I will be eager to read tomorrow's post. Your husband has a lot to be grateful for. He should do a guest post on your blog in praise of YOU.
Oooh, a special post. Is it your anniversary tomorrow?
I love your goals- sometimes the simplest things can make the biggest difference. We've worked through the love languages book but never made a list. I think that's a great idea. Having something tangible to return to would be a great motivator for me. Thanks for the suggestion!
For my husband and me, knowing each other's love language has helped us tremendously. We have our own natural way of sharing love and it's the way we want to be loved. But when I realized my husband's love language is helps, I understood why my helping him by working with him on his company has helped our relationship. He feels my love more when I'm actively working to help him.
For me, my love language is touch. And now that Greg is more aware of that it's so cute to see him touch my arm, etc. It can really make such a big difference.
I wish we had discovered this many years ago in our marriage. You are so wise Bethany beyond your years. I know I've said that before to you, but it's so true.
I so agree! If you're looking for a better husband... be a better wife first!
I think that giving our husbands attention shows them that we respect them which gives them the courage to fulfill their dreams.
Great post!
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